'Haters' and 'influencers', when they hate you without knowing you

What I remember best about my first week as a fashion blogger for 20 Minutes was not the topics I covered, whether it took me a long time or a little to get used to writing almost every day or if I was as focused on sharing it on networks as I am now.

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What I remember best about my first week as a fashion blogger for 20 Minutes was the insults. The ones that plummeted right down to my esteem, article after article.

It did not matter what I wrote, in all of them I was branded stupid, stupid, having no idea about fashion, being spoiled, living on stories, a shitty writer, bland, pathetic, superficial... This It happened only in my first week and only by anonymous haters, I'm not even talking about people who had something personal against me (those would come later).

People from all over the world (especially from Spain and South America) focused every day on telling me what a bad fashion journalist I was. That took an emotional toll on me that I didn't expect. I even remember talking to the person who suggested me to write the blog and saying that I didn't feel that, given the comments, I was living up to expectations.

And I'm talking about myself, an absolutely normal girl who spends her Sundays in her pajamas and does her shopping at Lidl because the basket is cheaper. That I'm not a celebrity, go.

If I, who am not a well-known figure in the world, struck a chord in that way and had so many haters, how would it affect bloggers who have thousands and millions of followers and therefore their detractors multiply mine? ?

Dulceida made it clear in her video from two weeks ago “More love and less hate” in which she talks about the hate that exists on social networks: “We have to open minds. In the end this harassment hurts“says the influencer. “There are people around me who have had a very bad time because of comments that a person makes without thinking about it. […] It hasn't happened to me, but above all I have seen cases of comments that mess with the bodies. Many are women who are also my mother's age. It's the least I understand."

She also confesses that "she was embarrassed to be bad about this, because of what people I don't know tell me".

Dianina XL, the youtuber I interviewed in May (you can find the interview here) and who modeled for one of my master's projects about oversized bodypositive, is another of the bloggers who live in constant harassment.

“It is not good to see that someone is successful. She takes envy and criticize her ”she tells me. “People don't get it. That of improving and striving to change what they do not like in their lives is bad, better to sit down criticizing trying to ruin the happiness of others.

"Let these people make their lives," says the XL blogger. Dulceida also reflects that "Just as you don't like them messing with your friends, family or your children at school, don't do it on social media."

I go further. We are all very brave from a screen where we do not see the person's face. Think about whether you would really say it to his face and then put yourself in our shoes. Think about whether you would like people you don't know to tell you every time you go out on the street that you suck, that your job is crap, that you're not even worth wiping your ass (true comments)... And that every day of your life, year after anus.

Would you hold it? Those of us who live from creating content publicly have no other choice. And we do it without any problem, it is not for nothing that it is said that what does not kill you makes you stronger.

The difference we have with respect to the haters is that we are not moved by hatred to do what we do, we are moved by something much bigger, more intense and more powerful: passion.

Tags: harassment, aida domenech,bloggers, dianina xl, dulceida, hate, haters, influencers, insults, internet, hate, online, network, social networks |Stored in: 2017, self-esteem, bodypositive, bodyshaming